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CommunicationProfessional dominatrix and BDSM advice columnist Mistress Matisse wrote up some recommendations for how to deal with correspondence and telephone communication between escorts, doms, and their clients especially as you determine who you reply to. It is easy to get overwhelmed by the barrage of emails and phone messages. She broke it down to people who are in yes category, those in the maybe, and those in the definite no. Regarding the no group she said that it may sound mean to deny people based on your instincts, but that it is a survival skill.
back to top - back to sex work archive Strippers a Security Risk?Strippers in Nashville are being finger printed by police as part of a criminal check required by a newly enforced city ordinance. The criminal check is just one part of the ordinance that also includes rules on opening hours of strip clubs and minimum distance required between dancers and patrons. There was already a law on the books dictating a special zoning for adult entertainment establishments. Stephanie Capps, owner of Stephanie's Cabaret, says that when she went into register for criminal check with the police her employees, dancers at her club, were harassed by police.
There is a serious question about this matter. How do strippers pose a security risk more so than other entertainers? Obviously, lawyers for adult entertainment businesses are asking this question, but so are some Nashville city council members. I hope people are not arguing that registering them and finger printing them is in the strippers' best interest in case they are victims of on-the-job crime. Improving working conditions and educating the public that sex work is work is a much more powerful tool in protecting sex workers from harassment and violence. My better judgement thinks the motivation for this ordinance does not consider strippers well being, their rights as workers or citizens at all in their argument. It is coming from a sex as sin perspective. For more on the ordinance, click here. back to top - back to sex work archive Strippers Awarded Employee StatusAustralia's Industrial Relations Commission has awarded strippers employee rights with minimum conditions including paid leave, meal breaks and rest periods.
I have always been uncomfortable with the lack of employee rights available to strippers. Their work can be perfectly legal, but they are not protected as other workers are. In Montreal strippers pay to work but it is unheard of that the club manager would give them a receipt so they can keep track of their earnings and use them to file their income taxes. Yes, there are sex workers who would gladly pay taxes and be part of society in that way if they could. back to top - back to sex work archive $pread Presents Sex Worker Visions
Wow! That sounds like an awesome event. I have a subscription to $pread magazine. I really appreciate the unique voices and stories they present on the world of sex work. I can only assume that the exhibition and the conference will be as powerful as well. I think the webcam video project is bound to be really cool. As an Internt porn performer I have worked with The Scandelles in their show Les Demimondes, exploring the virtual aspects of sex work. It is the new frontier of sex work and very much worthy of such artisitc projects. back to top - back to sex work archive Students as Sex WorkersWe often hear about university students here in Canada and the United States who work their way through school as strippers and/or escorts. Well, it seems something similar is happening in China.
Obviously, the author of the report doesn't think highly of sex work. Regardless, I would be interested to learn more about sex work in China and if there is any underground activism that offers support and resources for people choosing the work. When I met the workers and activists from Empower which works out of Thailand I was so impressed with their work and their attitudes. The experience really helped extinguish any lingering stereotypes I had about Asian sex workers - you know the ones we see in the media and in the news. So I wonder if the surprise of finding Chinese students as sex workers is just another example of this stereotype busting. back to top - back to sex work archive Straight From the Whore's MouthMy friend Sasha, writes a most excellent sex advice column that you can find at Eye Weekly in Toronto and the Montreal Mirror in, well, Montreal. A month or so ago someone asked for some advice with regards to exploitation and sex work in “third world” countries and she replied with some facts about sex workers in Asia that conflict with many Westerners' understanding of the situation. Sasha subsequently got a rash of letters from regular folks denouncing the sex trade and her whore empowering response. So she asked the sex workers at Empower, a sex-worker rights organization in Thailand to share their thoughts. Here is an excerpts:
back to top - back to sex work archive Stella’s 11th Anniversary & Launch PartyTonight I will be attending a launch party of the film and book that was made of the Forum XXX – Celebrating a Decade of Action, Designing Our Future, a sex worker conference organized by Stella (a Montreal based organization by and for sex workers). There were various activities, presentations and working groups held as a part of this conference and I am really looking forward to seeing “eXXXpression” – the compilation of all the work and activities that occurred that week. For more information on Stella, visit their website. back to top - back to sex work archive Man charged with sex worker's murder in AlbertaObviously this news report is not uplifting in the least, but it does highlight certain attitudes that exist today towards sex workers. Something to take about: how does the average person’s words and actions encourage and support violence against sex workers?
back to top - back to sex work archive Questionable Opinions
This particular columnist does not see the benefits of decriminalization. He thinks the greatest barrier to decriminalization is that sex work would lose its titillation factor. Well, my work as a porn performer is legal and it still has it. Same goes with stripping and phone sex. He also thinks decriminalization will only move sex work from the shadows to "well travelled neighbourhoods". It has shown to do something other than that - say, safer working conditions. I wonder if he has spoken to a sex worker himself about what she or he wants? I wonder if he has interviewed sex worker activists about the issues sex workers face? I wonder if he has researched how things are in New Zealand where sex work has been decriminalized. It seems from his column his research was a window shopping walk through the red light district in Belgium and Germany. For some ideas check out the conversation I had with a friend of mine from the Coalition for the Rights of Sex Workers. Or have a look at the video that was made of the Forum XXX – a conference that brought together sex workers and allies from around the world to discuss the issues we face. back to top - back to sex work archive Free Speech Protected & Lives Saved
Well, this is an interesting turn of events. I feel a little bit better knowing that groups who help women who at risk of HIV do not have to make some grand statement that they are against prostitution and subsequently limit their access to the very women they are aiming to help. How can alienating your target group help them? I am also happy to hear that a judge has ruled in favour of protecting the private speech of these organizations. back to top - back to sex work archive Man charged with second count of 1st degree murder
I wish I could post more positive news in this section but the reality of criminalizing sex work and whore stigma often leaves us with horrible and depressing cases of violence. back to top - back to sex work archive Seeking Male TalentAudacia Ray is seeking male talent for her directorial porn debut and has been running into a few too many stereotypical responses for her liking.
She has engaged in some not-too-surprising email discussions with potential male performers (I get similar ones and I am not even seeking out new performers) and it has left her wondering about the dissonance between male perceptions of the porn performing experience and the reality. back to top - back to sex work archive World Cup SexAmong the sex workers I chat with there was an expectation that the World Cup would mean an increase in business. Germany was supposedly building brothels to accommodate the increase in demand. There was also a fear that there would be an increase in smuggling illegal immigrants in for the work (both those who were informed and those we were coerced or mislead). Well, it seems it didn’t turn out the way.
The rest of the article includes many interesting points about the sex industry in Germany and the affects of the World Cup. A short, good read. back to top - back to sex work archive Fashion WhoresI find it inspiring to read the interesting ways sex workers tackle stigma and the ways they empower themselves.
back to top - back to sex work archive Walk For LifeI am raising funds for the Walk for Life, Quebec largest HIV/AIDS fundraiser. The funds I raise will be going to Stella. Stella is a not-for-profit organization that provides support and information to sex-workers so that they may live in safety and with dignity. I have personally benefited from their health and education services and know of many other sex workers who have done the same. Their work has direct impact on sex workers lives, but also helps fight the stigma we face which in the end helps porn consumers and sex work clients as well. If you would like to make a donation, please visit my official sponsor page. back to top - back to sex work archive Porn Flick Up for Prestigious Science Fiction AwardBy way of Violet Blue…
back to top - back to sex work archive Experts on the Sex industryI have to tell you I am always impressed by the work and commitment by sex work activists in the Asia Pacific. They are working against all sorts of social and political barriers.
back to top - back to sex work archive One Prostitute’s TaleI am not sure if this account was in fact written by a working gal, but based on what my escort friends have shared with me when we get together for sex worker powwows and talk about our work experiences it seems pretty much on the mark. Some find it more enjoyable than this gal, some less so, but the focus on the work seems pretty constistent.
back to top - back to sex work archive March Through the 16th International AIDS ConferenceThe International AIDS conference has brought together people from around the world, some of whom are sex workers and sex worker activists. On Wednesday workers and allies from 21 countries marched through the conference to demand their own place not only at the conference, but in their own societies.
back to top - back to sex work archive More on Sex Work and the AIDS Conference
Please note: While the article in question says that sex workers want legalization, more accurately would be the term decriminalization. For more on the difference you can read this article by the Sex Professionals of Canada. back to top - back to sex work archive AIDS Conference Wrap-upMy friend Sasha posted in her column highlights from the 2006 AIDS conference. It features a perspective you did not quite get in the mainstream news sources.
back to top - back to sex work archive Survey Busts Street Sex Worker MythA few years ago New Zealand passed law reform that decriminalized sex work. It came into affect in 2003 and certain politicians have been claiming that there are more street workers than before there was law reform. A research project headed by Otago University’s Christchurch School of Medicine and Health Sciences has found that there are no more street workers than before.
back to top - back to sex work archive Client SurveyIn his sexuality.about.com blog Cory Silverberg gave an overview of a survey of UK men who have paid for sex. A few quick stats: 1 in 10 men said they had paid for sex. Of those men half paid for sex while already having a partner. By way of his blog entry I found another interesting post by Dr. Petra Boynton on how the press sticks to the surface and stereotypes when covering such surveys.
back to top - back to sex work archive Boy George on Prostitution
While I can appreciate his appreciation for prostitution I really hope he is being misquoted because I really do not think prostitution or most any kind of sex work is respected as a profession. Maybe he thinks it should be held in high regard, but at this moment in time it certainly is not. I think people don’t know how pervasive sex worker stigma is or they have become so accustomed to it that it does not come up on their radar of issues. It is extremely common for people to see sex workers as victims or as people who get what they deserve (in terms of violence and hostility). Workers rights, human rights, and basic respect are not seen as things that apply to sex workers. Obviously, I think those are important issues and worth speaking out about. back to top - back to sex work archive More Boy GeorgeAfter posting the previous entry I got to thinking about how rare it is for celebrities to admit to seeing sex workers, much less be enthusiastic about it. While his current state of fame is nothing like what he had back in the 1980’s and he has less to lose in being open about being a client, it still is pretty extraordinary. It is very different than what we heard from Hugh Grant, Eddie Murphy and Charlie Sheen. I often wonder what the world would be like if everyone who uses the services of a sex worker or is a customer in the sex industry, be it porn or phone sex, would be public about it. Right now this kind of information only comes out when attached to scandal. I really think we have a long way to go before we can say we a re a sexually liberated society. back to top - back to sex work archive Continuing EducationA sex worker rights and resource group has added go-go dancing classes to its educational and vocational offerings. The course is aimed at women already working in the field and hopes to teach them socially acceptable dancing styles and safe dancing techniques. Empower also offers English and Japanese language courses, as well as computer training.
back to top - back to sex work archive Boot Camp for Call GirlsTo continue with the education theme, here is an account of a boot camp for Japanese sex workers. It has the traditional intense workout style of a military boot camp accompanied with training on how to deal with bad clients and other issues prostitutes face.
I find both these ideas very interesting. Due to the criminalization of sex work and the activities that surround it, prostitutes and others works often have to fend for themselves. You have to learn the ropes as you go along. Having a mentor is a rare thing, much less organized training. Having access to educational resources, health care, and open solidarity makes sex work a much safer occupational option. back to top - back to sex work archive A Bank By and For Sex WorkersWhat a success story!
back to top - back to sex work archive Serial Killer in Atlantic CityI hate posting these kinds of stories. It is quite upsetting. While I do not live a sheltered life, I find it hard to read about violence against sex workers (or anyone for that matter). Obviously, it hits close to home. I know that it is a common occurrence. It is so common that it is often accepted as a normal part of life for people on the street, that it should be expected. Some people blame the victims for their choices instead of holding aggressors accountable or they do not look at themselves and how their stigmatization of sex workers helps create an environment for violence. Sex workers are seen as perfect victims by serial killers because they think no one will miss them. That should not be the case. Today I came across an article that made me think of all of this.
Then there is this report from CNN (only availble for a limited amount of time). The headline for the video reads “Killer won’t stop with hooker, group fears”. It makes it sound like if the killer stuck with attacking sex workers then it would be relatively OK. But moving onto other victims, that would be worse. Maybe that was not the journalist or spokesperson’s intention. Maybe it was. I would not be surprised. For some more thoughts on violence against sex workers and what you can do about it, check out a discussion I posted as part of last years International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers (December 17th). back to top - back to sex work archive Empowering Sex Workers As a Way to Combat HIV/AIDSI have posted items before about the US government policy to only fund organizations that sign an anti-prostitution pledge. I came across another article about its impact on India where people have ambivalent feelings about prostitution but realize that connecting with sex workers is essential to having some control on the spread of HIV/AIDS.
Empowering sex workers to insist that their clients use condoms seems to be key. back to top - back to sex work archive Stripping As Artisitic PerformanceAn appeals court in Norway has ruled that like other forms of stage performance stripping is considered an art and is exempt from a value added tax of 25% that a local authority was saying should be paid on entry fees to the club.
This seems like a reasonable ruling. I am not a fan of “sin taxes” when applied to sexuality. To me viewing the nude body is not an immoral act and neither is entertaining consenting adults by way of a striptease performance. back to top - back to sex work archive Ducky Doolittle on WebcammingI really like this mini-doc on Ducky Doolittle’s experiences with webcamming. I think it offers a lot of insight into what webcamming used to be (and parts of it still aplly to today). It was not so long ago when she did her webcamming, but the technology and the market has changed so much that it made me all nostalgic for the 30 second refresh webcam experience. Webcamming is an interesting kind of sex work. It has some similarities to other forms, but also some differences. The technology and the way you operate really makes it unique from in-person work. It combines intimacy with detachment, viewer expectation with performer control. You are physically safe (though recent 2257 regulations in the United States really make it more dangerous than it needs to be), but exposed at the same time. It can be very overwhelming and time consuming. Wokrign from home has its advantages and its disadvantages. Burn out is likely. But the connections you make can be very satisfying. Webcamming is one of my favourite parts of my site & sex work, but I know I could not do it 24/7. For me a weekly show is best to counteract the negative aspects of the work. I still deal with some challengers, but the rewards are enough to make it worthwhile. back to top - back to sex work archive Murders in the UKI am sure you have read the news of the bodies of murdered sex workers being found in a small city in the UK. The media seems to be loving the story. It is causing a bit of hysteria in the UK. I suppose the combination of sex with violence makes for good headlines. It is just in time for the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers which is this Sunday, December 17th. With that in mind I wish the focus was on listening to sex workers’ stories and what we think would make for safer work. Update (061214): I came across a young feminist/criminal justice system employee’s blog on the coverage the murders have received. I appreciated her frankness in not wanting to speak on behalf of sex workers and the realities they face, as well as her consideration of the women as victims of violence rather than sensationalizing the nature of their work or choices. back to top - back to sex work archive Canadian Committee’s Wishy Washy Response to Violence Towards Sex WorkersThe final report from the Sub-Committee on Solicitation Laws does not seem to say anything new (read the press release version here). It certainly does not present any concrete suggestions on how to deal with violence against sex workers. It mentions law reform, but without going into any details. The focus seems to be on morality rather than human rights and worker rights as the means of protecting people. I do not see a difference from what is the current status quo which we know is not working. Various sex worker groups across Canada responded to the reports. Read Stella's response here (in French). Read Maggie's response here (in English). back to top - back to sex work archive One Way of Protecting Sex Workers from ViolenceI appreciated this overview of some of the ways in which Dutch sex workers are able to work and how that protects them from violence. Something to keep in mind in light of the murders here in Canada, in the UK and around the world.
back to top - back to sex work archive Language and IdentityAudacia Ray wrote up a very cool piece on recent issues that have arisen over the labelling of sex workers. The first being the US government’s rejection of the word sex worker because in their eyes it is not work, but slavery. Even if the people involved chose and consent to the activities. The second being the use of the word prostitute as the main identifier of a victim of violence such as what has occurred in the UK recently. She brings it all together in a concise manner. You should check it out. |
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